Broken Corset

My husband and I celebrated 10 years of marriage this week in Napa, California.  In between glasses of wine and amazing food, I found myself focusing on the institution of marriage, in California specifically, and I am sorry to say – the news is not all good.

California, post the legalization of gay marriage, is an example of disaster.  Since gay couples have been legally allowed to wed in California (an estimated 11,000 have taken advantage of the legalization), heterosexual marriage has suffered inestimable damage.

Yes, it’s true.  You can see it everywhere….  fewer people holding hands, more public fighting, children in tears in public…  the evidence of the destruction of traditional marriage is permeating all aspects of society.

When your gay neighbors wed, you go to bed at night – feeling the inferiority of your status as a heterosexual union – and many Californian’s are walking examples of insecurity about their marriage status.

What???

Okay, I exagerate, I’ll admit it.  But I don’t know what to say… despite all the dire warnings, I haven’t really noticed any difference.  I don’t feel differently about my marriage or my spouse.  I don’t look at the gay couples I see holding hands any differently than I did before.  The fear is ridiculous.  How is my commitment degraded by that of another dedicated couple?

And as we celebrate 10 years of marriage this week…  we raise our glasses to another 10…  and to the equality of our gay neighbors, that they may celebrate with us, their own union, in another decade. 

Equality for all.  No on Proposition 8.